You CAN'T always eat your cake!!

How did we come to live in a world where the people residing in it believe things are owed to them? No matter if you are black or white, Christian or atheist, rich or poor, have the “right” last name or not, you are NOT owed a DAMNED thing!

(Side note: I am a Christian. I use cuss/curse words. Often. I am a communication studies major and completely understand that words, in general, are social symbols that were socially constructed by man. Man made these words socially unacceptable or taboo, not God. Just saying. It is very likely that my lyrical prowess could include a curse word and scripture in the same paragraph. I’m that girl. I hope I don’t defend you, but if I do, I do. Judge me if you want.)

Back to other rant now. At some point people, specifically groups of people began to believe because they are part of this group or that group that they should be looked at or treated differently. Our society has become an “I want my piece of cake and eat it too.” I want to eat it right now, in front of you, AND I may even laugh in your face because you don’t have a piece.  

I've heard and seen so many things. We want more young people in church, but we don’t want a contemporary service. I want to lose about 40 pounds, but I don't want to exercise or eat right. I want my child to have this teacher, but I do not want that student in his class. The problem with this mentality is that people refuse to understand the elements of hard work and integrity. The truth is that you must play the hand you were dealt in life. If you want change, you don’t make it happen by bad mouthing someone.

Tonight, I am writing this post because ultimately I am pissed at how a good friend of mine was talked about today. She is an honorable, hard-working and super loving individual. Her character was attacked by someone because that person did not get what they wanted. A person who in the past has been granted many things he or she may not have deserved. I suppose I understand the game of playing favorites or using your position or your last name to get what you want, but I try my best not to do that. For instance this school year, my son was placed in a class without any of his close friends. The teacher, of the class that had all of his friends, wanted me to go to the principal and get my son moved into her class. I have a pretty good relationship with my principal, and he more than likely would have moved my son. However, I don’t want to be that kind of person.  I really do try and recognize that neither I nor any of my family members are superior, and we are in no way owed anything by anyone. I try to teach my children that if they want something they must work for it. I have also prepared them for the unfairness of small town politics. They are learning to accept where they are placed on the field and play that position (and play it to the best of their ability).

Philippians 2:14-15 says, “Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.” Yes, we live in a world that is not fair. People will try to lie, steal, cheat, bad-mouth and bitch to get exactly what they want, but what WE want is not we are called to want. Through many of those evil ways, people eventually get what they want or at least get revenge on the someone that hindered them getting what they wanted.

However, I prefer to turn from such evil slander and seek a much greater prize. There are times that I do become frustrated. There are days that I bad mouth (and later feel guilty for diminishing my character in the heat of the moment). There are days that I do not shine as bright as God would have me to shine.  My prayer tonight is for God to mold my heart and mind into vessels that acknowledge, accept, and conquer the evil of this world. My prayer is that God uses those crooked and twisted people to teach me how NOT to act. My prayer is for God to humble my heart, use my words, and for others to see Him more clearly because I reflect His light. 

P.S. I must say to my boo, I love you! You are awesome at what you do no matter what people say may say about you ;)